On thanksgiving my girlfriend cooked and had damn near her whole family over for the holidays. Unfortunately I had to work and got off at about 1700. When I came home there was hardly any left or just not enough to talk about. __________________ But she sounds like the type that would get defensive at a drop of a hat, Chosen.I say, if you can live without her, you would be better off. This is a huge indication of the future! Heck, anytime you have mentioned her, she has been out for herself. But then, again, we are hearing one side of the story (not that I don't trust yours -- she could have been busy with her family. But if she was, she could have explained it a little better to you instead of becoming defensive.). Be careful! Don't let her got to entangled into your affairs. __________________ Quote:
Very, she gets mad at just about anything and thinks I'm the one that is always with the attitude. I wonder why  .She always wants to know where I'm going and when I'm going to get back. Like yesterday, I went to the store to get some stuff. I told her that I was going and she wanted to know what I was going for. I told her to get some stuff. She said like wait. I was like why does all that matter. She was like why come you just cant tell me things when I ask you. I said why is it so important that you know what im getting from the store, how long im going to be gone, did I collect $200 when I passed GO. Then she was like why do you like to keep things from me, its not like its big deal or anything. And then I said but it is a big deal for you to know every detail about what im doing. This is the typical sh!t I go through. And she wonders why we never fuukin do anything. I DONT HAVE TIME FOR THIS. __________________ like, you should totally dump that girl. why do you even, like, like her? what does she like do for you? does she even like make you happy, like ever?__________________ Quote:
Every know and then, but not to much to brag about. __________________ Hire a hitman...You could probably get one really cheap from those ex USSR countries. __________________ **** man that suxwhen i was still at home and i cooked while the rents were at work i made them a each a plate to eat and one to take to work for lunch the next day and thats without even being asked to cook i figured the had a long hard day of work while i sat hoe they deserve to come home to a clean house and a hot meal ready but thanksgiving dinner and she didnt ssave you any? what the hell? __________________ I think I should let her read this thread so that she can see that she is wrong in what she did.Would that be wrong on my part. __________________ Quote:
hehe sorry about that chosen. The first line was directed at you only  Oh, and I totally understand 'the family' thing... I dated a guy once, and it was not anything serious, but he really liked me and he understood how I felt. But his mom always made comments like, 'you are ready for kids, no?' and 'you will make me a wonderful daughter-in-law!' I always chuckled and left it to Markie to deal with it. Well, when I broke it off with Markie, I woke up to find black candles burning on my poor car and on my balcony. hehe GET OUT MILK while you still can!! __________________ Her not saving you some thanksgiving dinner is inconsiderate and shows she doesn't care a whit about your needs. This incident is just another example of her selfinvolved behavior. There is also a lack of trust in your relationship gotmilk. If she's this way now think about how she would be in the future in a more permanent relationship. Bottom line is dump her and her uncaring attitudes.__________________ Quote:
Are you saying she might not trust me? If so, that doesnt give her the right to disrespect me and my house. Never thought I'd say this, but "SUX TO BE ME" [Edited by gotmilk on 11-26-2000 at 03:50 PM] __________________ Quote:
No. He's politely saying you should dump the bitch. __________________ You said yourself gotmilk she doesn't trust you."She always wants to know where I'm going and when I'm going to get back. Like yesterday, I went to the store to get some stuff. I told her that I was going and she wanted to know what I was going for. I told her to get some stuff. She said like wait. I was like why does all that matter. She was like why come you just cant tell me things when I ask you. I said why is it so important that you know what im getting from the store, how long im going to be gone, did I collect $200 when I passed GO. Then she was like why do you like to keep things from me, its not like its big deal or anything. And then I said but it is a big deal for you to know every detail about what im doing. This is the typical sh!t I go through. And she wonders why we never fuukin do anything. I DONT HAVE TIME FOR THIS." I am not saying in any way, shape or form that you have given her reason to act like that. What I am saying is this: a good relationship is built on trust and mutual repect. Your current relationship doesn't have that. Its not easy to hear this but you know what must be done eventually. __________________ Saturday I made a big bowl of turkey salad with the left over turkey. It was a very big bowl mind you and I had a small bowl of it that day and an even smaller bowl of it for breakfast on Sunday.I came home Saturday from work and what do you know it was only like a half cup left. My girlfriend said her brother and dad came over and had about 4 bowls of it. I confronted her about this and she said well you had some and I didnt think you wanted anymore. I told her I dont buy **** and make **** for your family to come over here and eat up and you think its ok because they are your people. She actually believes she is right in what she is doing.  __________________ Kick ass, take names. Oh, wait, don't do that. But I'd definately dump the bitch. Who does **** like that?! She knew you were pissed about the Thanksgiving thing, but she didn't get it. She doesn't understand that she is screwing up on a really big scale. And, she super selfish. She never thinks of you. Only her and her family. She always wants to know where you are, which is a big sign of possesive behavior. And, she has no respect for you or your belongings. There really doesn't seem to be any options with this chick. She just doesn't understand how much this is bothering you. Dump her. She doesn't seem to be worth the trouble. Blu __________________ What makes you want to have her as a girlfriend?__________________ Quote:
She wasnt like this when werent staying together and you never expect it when you start. __________________ Quote:
which is why i don't think i'll ever move in with someone (unless, of course, i get married, which won't be for a loooooooooooongggggggggggggggg time.) all of my friends who live with their boy/girlfriends HATE their lives. they don't even like the person they are with anymore, and they don't know how to break up with them. AH! and then i have to hear about how miserable they are! GET OUT NOW I TELL YA! __________________ You need to seriously sit down and tell her what's up. You are in the relationship for mutual respect, honesty, trust and admiration and it seems like all you are getting is a piece of ass (if even that?).. If she has anything smart ass to say while you are letting her know how you feel, kick her to the curb and hope she finds some other person to not think about.. Nobody needs abuse.. and this my friend is just another kind.. it's called being walked all over.. and even though she might not know it (which is why you need to make her aware in MANY words), she's still doin it and it's not right.. But remember, if you do dump her and you find someone else, this is how your courtship should go. "Hi I'm (Insert name here), what's your name?? Would you save me a plate on Thanksgiving?? YES?? Great! Would you like to go out for some coffee??".. If the girl has to hesitiate.. Move on! =0) Thanksgiving is for family, friends and loved ones to be thought of and admired.. not forgotten and starving.. ESPECIALLY when you pay for the food.__________________ Quote:
I actually did this like night, she just turned her cheek and started fumbling with other ****. I asked her if she felt she was right and what she said was.................(I think you already know). This morning I told her to ask everybody at her job what thought about this situation and what they would do. I doubt she will ask though. __________________ How could she not think to make you a plate??Dump the cold hearted b*tch.  __________________ I would have made you a plate and had lots of leftovers for you...I am just that way. I am sorry you didn't get the turkey grindage you so desired...I will send you some of my leftovers.__________________ Quote:
Preciate the thought. If only she would have done it. __________________ usually im really forgiving in most respectsbut in this case it sounds like this kinda **** happens with alot mroe then just food kick her ass to the curb cause you aitn happy and he isnt goona change __________________ kain9i6 already called it. Without trust and respect this person can't even be your friend, much less your significant other. She will have to learn these or you will be one unhappy sucker.Cover yourself now, close any shared bank accounts, cancel any credit cards with both your names. The banks and CC companies will always hold the person they have the greatest chance of collecting from responsible (that would be you). If she asks why, just tell her that she doesn't deserve the trust that it implies, because she doesn't return it. If she is on your lease, see if you can have her taken off. If you’re the one who leaves, make damn sure you are removed from the lease because you will be held responsible. If she is afraid of loosing you she might just realize what she is doing wrong and correct it. If not, she might do you the favor of walking out on you. You might also consider using her family against her. Ask her dad what he would have done in the same situation, make it sound as if you are asking for advice. Her mother and brother might also have an interesting opinion. Her family, if made aware of the situation, might do the attitude adjustment for you. They already know what buttons to push. They sound like a close family and if they start considering you a part of it, they probably will not tolerate her abusing you. Then again if they give you a ‘tough $hit” attitude, you probably don’t want to have anything to do with the low-lives. It would be a shame to loose the investment of time and energy you have put into your relationship. It would be worse to stick around if it isn’t going to be much better. Just my $.02 Good Luck. __________________ Quote:
I feel that if her family came over there and damn near ate up everything, they have no respect for other peoples stuff either and only consider themselves as well. So it probably wouldnt do no good asking for their opinion. I guess with them its GET IT WHILE THE GETTING IS GOOD. __________________ Quote:
Alright, gotmilk, you've got a point and you've made it, and now you've got PLENTY of responses backing you up. Now quit your crying, go home and deal with your ****. I don't want to hear any more whining on this thread from you. The next post better be "We've worked it out and things will be great from here on." or "I sent that snotty little bitch packing and now I feel like a new man. Seeya when I get back from the strip club." __________________ GOTMILK, she will only treat you like **** if you allow it. You teach people how to treat you by what you let them get away with. Her not making you a plate was just downright inconsiderate, it was afterall a holiday, which makes it even worse. You don't sound like you are really happy with this girl, and speaking from experience bad relationships don't just fix themselves. Tell her what you are pissed about, be specific and tell her what you expect from her as a partner. If she is not agreeable, dump her. Mavi forum |
Sunday, June 10, 2007
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